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One of the most frequent dating advice questions that women ask (or relationship advice, however you want to look at it) is this: How do I get my guy to fall in love with me? SO many women ask this question, and yet, the question itself is all wrong. You cannot make a man fall in love with you, become your boyfriend or husband (well, unless you blackmail him!).

The real question should be “WHY should he fall in love with me?”

Many women , when looking for a prospective mate, have a laundry list of things that he should or should not have. They of course want him to be funny, strong, tall, handsome, rich, no spitting, smoking, chewing and loves his mama. But not more than her!

That’s a lot for a guy to live up to – ya know? But what do YOU have to offer him in return? Why should he choose YOU? Well, let’s talk about some attributes that men really like in women . In other words – this is HIS laundry list, what can YOU give him in return?

First of all, let’s talk about character. No one wants to be with someone who lacks character, integrity and personality. Some of the qualities that men are looking for are as follows:

1 – Honesty, in BOTH words and actions. One of a man’s greatest pet peeves is a woman who tersely replies, “Nothing.” When he asks what is wrong. Be honest in both your feelings and your wants and needs.
2- Kindness – men equate kindness with love. Despite the women’s lib movement ? men still want women to be kind and generous, things like being rude to your waitress or sales clerk are a total turn-off to a guy.
3- Be mature and in control of yourself. Men do not like women who have temper tantrums. Do not be moody, needy or pouty.
4- Spontaneity – men love spontaneous and fun women . Be open to new adventure and fun and never forget your sense of humor. This is something that Christian Carter hits on in Catch Him and Keep Him eBook; it is one of the biggest things that can keep the spark in your relationship for the whole lifetime of the relationship.

This list, of course, can go on for miles, but keep in mind the nature of these traits – they are all basically centered on truth, kindness and basically a love of self. These are foundations stones of strong character. You have to love yourself and allow yourself to experience these things without reserve.

Another thing that men love is a woman’s ability to enjoy the things HE likes. Wouldn’t you just EAT IT UP if a guy you were dating became interested in your pottery class or your love of reading? Imagine if you could do the same for him. By being open and ready for HIS likes, I am betting that he will be more open and ready to experience YOUR favorite things as well.

One thing that kind of goes hand in hand with this is the ability to have a HOBBY and have some fun without him. DO NOT base your happiness on his. Let him know that you have a life outside of him and that you do not NEED him to be happy and content. This shows confidence and maturity and is the exact opposite of needy behavior. Needy behavior, according to Christian Carter, is the death knell of a relationship – it is men’s biggest turnoff.

A fourth thing men love – self-reliance. Are you able to manage your own household? Can you change a tire? Run your own grill, computer, finances, etc? You won’t have to do these things for yourself forever if you find a mate, but men love it when a woman CAN.

Lastly, take care of yourself. You do not have to be a model to attract a guy. But YOU know what your best attributes are, use them! Take care of yourself, keep clean, healthy, and stay interested in the temple that is your body. It’s the only one you will ever have!

If you want more dating advice for women, check out Christian Carter’s eBook, Catch Him and Keep Him. It is full of advice on the many facets of finding a good guy and being able to keep him. Dating and relationships can be tricky, and finding good relationship advice can be even harder. Don’t miss your chance to get on top of the game now!